A lot of us get stuck.  Sometimes because we don’t like the options, or we’re trying to avoid making a decision.

And then we ask our friends and family, “what would you do?” But the responses are always so disappointing. They don’t fit. They don’t sound right. They just don’t work for us.

Why is that?

It’s because, we have to make the decision ourselves. Even if it ends up being the same decision as someone else might make.  And even if it ends up being the wrong decision.

If we let someone else decide for us, we end up disempowered. No one likes to be disempowered. We all prefer to be empowered. To be confident and in control of our own life.

It’s not that you should never ask this question, but remember:

if you do what someone else tells you to do, you’re really living their life – not yours.


So,  here’s a few tools to help you make your own decision.

Think about these questions.  Writing down the answers helps a lot of people, but if you don’t want to do that, just think about the answers.

  • Do you really want someone else to make the decision?
  • Why? (the answer to this is often the reason you’re stuck, and worth exploring!)
  • Imagine you can wave your magic wand and get someone else is to make the decision – what advice would you give them?
  • Does the decision really matter?
  • What will happen if you make no decision?  How will this feel?
  • How do you want to be able to feel about this decision when you look back on it in the future?

These questions help you gain different perspectives. They help you turn the issue over in our minds, and allow us to view it from different angles.

This is the key to getting unstuck, and making your own decisions.

If your decision is a difficult one, book a simplicity session and we can work out it together.

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